Why Am I Single?

I have touched on this before. But let’s touch on this again. Many people have asked me why I am single. The reason? I am too picky and probably way too over-cautious.

Love must have:

Trust
Caring
Loyalty
Honesty
Empathy
Sympathy
Forgiveness
Compromise
Compassion
Understanding

I am willing to give all that but must have it in return as well.

Why Have I Not Gotten Married?

Why am I not married again? That’s pretty simple. Once I am committed to you, I do not ‘need” to get married to achieve a monogamous relationship. I do not need a title of marriage even though I am committed to getting married one day. 

So why am I overly cautious? Am I scared of marrying the wrong person? Absolutely 100 percent I am. Once bitten twice shy and so why get stuck in another rotten relationship? I don’t need the complications of a crazy person entering my life and wrecking my perfect balance of not giving a crap when I do not need to.

I am not perfect.

Oh, I know I am not. I don’t remember things that are not important to me. I don’t care about brand name clothes or luxury items of any kind. I will not buy you a worthless piece of shiny rock that is dug out of the ground by corporations, because it does not and will never signify any sign of commitment from anyone, regardless of the cost. I would however love to buy a ring made of a meteorite or an old connecting rod from a nuclear plant. 

I don’t give a crap about perfume, or makeup. I prefer my woman to be natural so to speak. Makeup is meant to enhance one’s features and not be worn like a bloody Halloween mask. 

Yup, I am far from perfect. I may eat at random hours and prefer not to have dinner. I do not watch TV or reality shows so do not bother to try and get me to watch the stupid Kardashians. I will watch Netflix movies and maybe even a series if it is really good. 

I will not put up with the slightest of lies because one lie will lead to another and another. I do not expect perfection because, like you, I am far from perfect. 

So why am I not married?

My ex-wife is a drunk, so seeing a loved one or a love interest drink, raises red flags. Hiding your phone raises a red flag because I have been cheated on. I do have an ex-fiance but that is another story.

Any sort of deception or lies will piss me off for sure, there has been too much of that in my life. I need a trustworthy individual who is nice, caring, and honest. No games ladies. Yes, it’s hard to say what you mean and mean what you say but for crying out loud I cannot read your mind. 

Don’t ask me if the dress makes you look fat, and don’t ask me to smile when I am not happy. We are humans after all. We need compassion, understanding, empathy, and compromise to go alongside the truth honesty, loyalty, and trust. While some of those tend to merge and mesh, I need to make sure that if I ever get married again, all my boxes above are ticked off. I want to be able to find an easygoing, lovely woman to match me in at least the values I have laid out above. Oh yeah, let’s not forget the chemistry and physical attraction, since we would all be caught with our pants down if you say you loved someone only for their intellect and their beautiful heart.