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The Right Way to Hug for a Deeper Connection

The Right Way to Hug

Most people hug without thinking about it. A quick squeeze, a polite pat on the back, or a one-shoulder lean. But have you noticed how some hugs feel forgettable while others stay with you?

My Story: Learning the Right Way to Hug

My own knowledge of this comes from my friend Peter, who lives in Bali. One evening, as I was saying goodbye to a group of friends, Peter pulled me aside and said, “You’re doing it wrong. If you want to hug properly, let your hearts meet.”

I laughed at first because I thought, how complicated could a hug be? But he showed me. Instead of leaning left and bumping right shoulders like we usually do, he stepped slightly to the right. That brought our left sides, and our hearts, into alignment. The hug felt instantly different. It was not just polite. It was grounding, warm, and strangely calming.

The Science of Hugging

When we hug, our bodies release oxytocin, often called the bonding hormone. This lowers stress, creates trust, and helps us feel connected. But the quality of the hug changes the effect. A rushed or awkward hug does not deliver the same impact as a slow, chest-to-chest embrace.

How to Give a Heart-to-Heart Hug

If you want to try the right way to hug, here is how:

  1. Approach with presence. Do not rush. A hug is a moment.
  2. Step slightly to your right. This lines up your left sides, where your hearts are.
  3. Hold for a few seconds. Let your breath slow. Notice the warmth and calm.
  4. Release gently. Avoid breaking away too quickly. Let the moment close softly.

Why This Hug Matters

A heart-to-heart hug can:

  • Reduce stress and anxiety
  • Deepen intimacy in relationships
  • Strengthen bonds with friends, partners, and family
  • Provide a sense of safety and grounding

Hugging the Right Way

Ever since Peter showed me, I have not been able to unlearn it. A simple shift in how you hug changes everything. It transforms a casual gesture into something memorable, something that says, “I see you, I am here with you.”

So the next time you hug someone you care about, step right, lean left, and let your hearts meet. That is the real way to hug.

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Zsolt Zsemba

Zsolt Zsemba has worn many different hats. He has been an entrepreneur, and businessman for over 30 years. Living abroad has given him many amazing experiences in life and also sparked his imagination for writing. After moving to Canada from Hungary at the age of 10 and working in a family business for a large part of his life. The switch from manufacturing to writing came surprisingly easily for him. His passion for writing began at age 12, mostly writing poetry and short stories. In 1999, the chance came to write scripts. Zsolt took some time off from his family business to write in Jakarta Indonesia for MD Entertainment. Having written dozens of soap operas and made for TV movies, in 2003 Zsolt returned to the family business once more. In 2018, he had the chance to head back to Asia once again. He took on the challenge to be the COO for MD Pictures and get back into the entertainment business. The entertainment business opened up the desire to write once more and the words began to flow onto the pages again. He decided to rewrite a book he began years ago. Organ House was reborn and is a fiction suspense novel while Scars is a young adult drama focused on life’s challenges. After the first two books, his desire to write not only became more challenging but enjoyable as well. After having several books completed he was convinced to publish them for your enjoyment. Zsolt does not tend to stay in one specific genre but tends to lean towards strong female leads and horror. Though he also has a few human interest books, he tends to write about whatever brews in his brain for a while.