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You Are Not Responsible.

I came across these quotes.

You are not responsible for saving anyone.

You are not responsible for convincing them to do better.

It’s not your job to exist for people and give them your life!

I came across this on LinkedIn and felt it was important to share because many times we are compelled or led to believe that it is our duty to take care and help others. It is not, you can, but you are not responsible…

These words are from actor Anthony Hopkins:

Let go of people who are not ready to love you. This is the hardest thing you’ll ever have to do in your life, and it will also be the most important thing.

Stop having difficult conversations with people who don’t want to change.

Stop showing up for people who are not interested in your presence. I know your instinct is to do everything possible to gain the appreciation of those around you, but it’s an impulse that steals your time, energy, mental and physical health.

When you start fighting for a life with joy, interest, and commitment, not everyone will be ready to follow you. It doesn’t mean you have to change who you are. It means you have to let go of people who aren’t ready to be with you. If you are excluded, insulted, forgotten, or ignored by the people you give your time to, you are not doing yourself a favor by continuing to offer them your energy and your life.

Truth is you ain’t for everybody and everybody ain’t for you. This is what makes it so special when you find people you have friendship with or mutual love. You will know how precious it is because you have experienced what is not. There are billions of people on this planet and many of them you will find at your level of interest and commitment. Maybe if you stop showing up, they won’t look for you. Maybe if you stop trying, the relationship ends.

Maybe if you stop texting, your phone will stay dark for weeks. That doesn’t mean you ruined the relationship. It means the only thing sustaining it was the energy you gave to keep it. That’s not love, that’s attachment.

It’s giving a chance to those who don’t deserve it!

You deserve so much more. The most valuable thing you have in your life is your time and energy, both are limited. The people and things you give your time and energy to will define your existence. When you realize this, you start to understand why you are so anxious when you spend time with people, activities or spaces that don’t suit you and shouldn’t be near you.

You will start to realize that the most important thing you can do for yourself and everyone around you is to protect your energy more fiercely than anything else.

Make your life a safe haven, where only people “compatible” with you are allowed.

You are not responsible for saving anyone.

You are not responsible for convincing them to do better.

It’s not your job to exist for people and give them your life!

You deserve real friendships, true commitments, and a complete love with healthy and prosperous people. The decision to distance yourself from toxic people will give you the love, esteem, happiness, and protection you deserve.

Zsolt Zsemba

Zsolt Zsemba has worn many different hats. He has been an entrepreneur, and businessman for over 30 years. Living abroad has given him many amazing experiences in life and also sparked his imagination for writing. After moving to Canada from Hungary at the age of 10 and working in a family business for a large part of his life. The switch from manufacturing to writing came surprisingly easily for him. His passion for writing began at age 12, mostly writing poetry and short stories. In 1999, the chance came to write scripts. Zsolt took some time off from his family business to write in Jakarta Indonesia for MD Entertainment. Having written dozens of soap operas and made for TV movies, in 2003 Zsolt returned to the family business once more. In 2018, he had the chance to head back to Asia once again. He took on the challenge to be the COO for MD Pictures and get back into the entertainment business. The entertainment business opened up the desire to write once more and the words began to flow onto the pages again. He decided to rewrite a book he began years ago. Organ House was reborn and is a fiction suspense novel while Scars is a young adult drama focused on life’s challenges. After the first two books, his desire to write not only became more challenging but enjoyable as well. After having several books completed he was convinced to publish them for your enjoyment. Zsolt does not tend to stay in one specific genre but tends to lean towards strong female leads and horror. Though he also has a few human interest books, he tends to write about whatever brews in his brain for a while.