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We Don’t Know, I Wasn’t There.

We Just Don’t Know.

Recently two women I know were gossiping about another woman. This other woman acted in ways that they claimed to not approve of. The kicker is that they were leading each other on and on. Almost like prompts on cue cards or a teleprompter. One sentence led to another and the two women empowered themselves on each other’s distaste of the action by this individual’s supposed behavior. Not being there and not having seen this with my eyes I can only believe a certain percentage of the story because…

I Wasn’t There.

For me and at this point in my life hearsay is hearsay. Despite some parts of the story being the same, other parts of the story were somewhat different. Plus with the added fact that they keep coming back and circling back to his woman on more than one occasion was in poor taste.

It appeared that one individual of the two women was tossing more and more fuel on this fire to drag in the other individual. In other words, her abusive and narcissistic behavior was clear. Her goal was to undermine a certain individual.

But Wait, There’s More!

Such behavior is unacceptable and it was not the first time. This is the catch-22. This behavior was a repeated occurrence. This was something that we have seen and heard from others in our circle of friends.

We do not need belittling, bullying, and narcissistic behavior from anyone.

For one, we cannot and should not judge anyone or their behavior. We do not know what each individual is going through. Why they do or do not do certain things in their lives is not our problem.

Unless their behavior hurts us or they are going to do physical harm to themselves, we do not need to interfere. We do need to step in when the actions of individuals lead to online or in-person bullying, lies, or untrue gossip.

This is where we need to draw the line and maybe distance ourselves from certain individuals. Cutting off a person for the mental health and safety of a group is important. In a nutshell, let people be. We do not know why people do what they do at times. We do not know what’s happening in a person’s life and maybe they need to get something out of their system. This does not mean they are bad people. We need to ask ourselves a simple question. Is it our business or not? If not, then do not bother spreading lies, and rumors and causing problems.

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Zsolt Zsemba

Zsolt Zsemba has worn many different hats. He has been an entrepreneur, and businessman for over 30 years. Living abroad has given him many amazing experiences in life and also sparked his imagination for writing. After moving to Canada from Hungary at the age of 10 and working in a family business for a large part of his life. The switch from manufacturing to writing came surprisingly easily for him. His passion for writing began at age 12, mostly writing poetry and short stories. In 1999, the chance came to write scripts. Zsolt took some time off from his family business to write in Jakarta Indonesia for MD Entertainment. Having written dozens of soap operas and made for TV movies, in 2003 Zsolt returned to the family business once more. In 2018, he had the chance to head back to Asia once again. He took on the challenge to be the COO for MD Pictures and get back into the entertainment business. The entertainment business opened up the desire to write once more and the words began to flow onto the pages again. He decided to rewrite a book he began years ago. Organ House was reborn and is a fiction suspense novel while Scars is a young adult drama focused on life’s challenges. After the first two books, his desire to write not only became more challenging but enjoyable as well. After having several books completed he was convinced to publish them for your enjoyment. Zsolt does not tend to stay in one specific genre but tends to lean towards strong female leads and horror. Though he also has a few human interest books, he tends to write about whatever brews in his brain for a while.