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The Un-Sender

Don’t Be Impolite.

You know, these days it seems like group chats are just everywhere. I get it, they’re a super convenient way to stay connected with friends, family, and even coworkers. But I’ve noticed this kinda troubling trend where people are just constantly unsending their messages in these chats.

And let me tell you, that really rubs me the wrong way. When someone unsends something they’ve said, it just leaves the rest of us feeling all kinds of confused and even a little betrayed, you know? We’re sitting there wondering, “What did they say that they regretted?” or “Were they trying to hide something?” It just breeds mistrust and suspicion within the group.

We are not talking about sending messages to your wife and accidentaly posting in the group.

What’s The Point?

And that’s not even the worst part. When people are constantly deleting their words, it totally undermines the whole point of having open and honest communication. If we can’t even rely on each other to stand by what we say, how are we supposed to have any real, meaningful conversations? It’s just a recipe for a breakdown in those relationships.

Look, I get it – sometimes we say things we wish we could take back. But in my opinion, the answer isn’t to just erase it and pretend it never happened. I think it’s way better to just own up to it, you know? Address the issue head-on, apologize if needed, and use it as a chance to learn and grow. That’s how you build trust and respect within a group.

NO More Unsending

That’s why in my chats, I’ve got a strict no-unsending policy. If you say it, you gotta stand by it. I figure, if you’re not sure about something, just take that extra moment to really think it through before you hit send. And if someone in the group keeps breaking that rule, well, I’m not afraid to kick ’em out. I want my chats to be a place where everyone feels comfortable speaking their mind without fear of getting their words erased.

At the end of the day, I just believe that free speech and accountability are so important, especially in these group settings. When we’re all willing to put our words out there and own them, that’s how we build the trust and respect that lets us have those really meaningful conversations. And to me, that’s what group chats should be all about.

Zsolt Zsemba

Zsolt Zsemba has worn many different hats. He has been an entrepreneur, and businessman for over 30 years. Living abroad has given him many amazing experiences in life and also sparked his imagination for writing. After moving to Canada from Hungary at the age of 10 and working in a family business for a large part of his life. The switch from manufacturing to writing came surprisingly easily for him. His passion for writing began at age 12, mostly writing poetry and short stories. In 1999, the chance came to write scripts. Zsolt took some time off from his family business to write in Jakarta Indonesia for MD Entertainment. Having written dozens of soap operas and made for TV movies, in 2003 Zsolt returned to the family business once more. In 2018, he had the chance to head back to Asia once again. He took on the challenge to be the COO for MD Pictures and get back into the entertainment business. The entertainment business opened up the desire to write once more and the words began to flow onto the pages again. He decided to rewrite a book he began years ago. Organ House was reborn and is a fiction suspense novel while Scars is a young adult drama focused on life’s challenges. After the first two books, his desire to write not only became more challenging but enjoyable as well. After having several books completed he was convinced to publish them for your enjoyment. Zsolt does not tend to stay in one specific genre but tends to lean towards strong female leads and horror. Though he also has a few human interest books, he tends to write about whatever brews in his brain for a while.