In Search of Happiness.
We have looked at the lost women of Bali from one perspective, now let’s examine this from another. How can a single male find a mate in Bali? When so many women have been through so much, it is hard to find a genuine connection because women can and will latch on to a man for many reasons.
Some of it may be love, some of it may be financial needs or some of this could be a cry for help and to be saved. Either way, it is rarely a genuine connection or true love. This is a web of lies and deceit a Bule must swim through and sort through before a truly loving relationship can begin.
It is Sad
These are facts. Many women only want the prestige of being seen and being with a foreigner in places they will never be able to afford on their salaries. From the first part of this series to now I have focused on women.
But not the men. I know of a few women who use several men at the same time to gain an upper hand in life. Having had personal experience with this it is very ugly and very difficult to detect. These women know the game and can juggle several men especially if the men travel for business and are often in and out of Indonesia. This causes several side effects.
These Women Don’t Know What Love Is.
These women are so used to being used and using others that the love in their hearts does not exist. I don’t think they can fall in love or love anyone deeply enough to be loyal. It is always a search for the next leg up, the next financial injection, or a trip to someplace they would never be able to reach alone.
This sea of fish or sharks can be hard to swim through. It goes both ways and finding any man or woman worthy of your time and attention is hard. For all or some of the reasons I have laid out in this series, life is not easy in Bali for a single person. A genuine connection is hard enough to find in any city. However, on this island, I believe it is even harder when often young women come with high hopes and regret the move but are too ashamed to move back home. Therefore, they stay, struggle, and often turn to the bottle, nightlife, and drugs. So, there you go, life in paradise is exactly that… However, sometimes life in paradise is not paradise.
