The conversation went sort of like this.
When a supposed loved one calls you stupid and constantly tells you to f-off, and it’s not a joke, what would it be? Well, a one-off thing can be excusable but when it happened on and on it is on another level. One would say this is terribly disgusting and hurtful.
“Leave him” would be the go-to statement here.
But in this case, the abusive person was a woman. This is how it went down.
You have nothing…
Was something she often said to him along with the “you are stupid, I hate you asshole, you are worthless, I am going to look for someone else, I am downloading Tinder, I am calling my sugar daddy, and so on.
Upon hearing all this I wondered how the hell this ever came to be in the first place. This woman has issues, dude, you should run away as fast as you can.
Well, he tried.
He packed her shit up and threw her out of the house once…However, she had another trick up her sleeve. One thing he noticed about her was that she never talked about her past. Let the past be buried he thought to himself. But he saw the cut wounds on her arms. He was sure she had been cutting herself in the past and that was her weapon of choice to get back into his life.
I will kill myself, she said.
This statement allowed her back in the house once more even though she had been packed and kicked out completely. Self-harm is a scary thing and so my friend forgave her and she said she would never do it again.
He was wrong.
Things were alright for a while and then took a turn for the worse. She became more and more aggressive. Bossy was a kind word to describe her. Controlling, manipulative and dangerous to one’s health would be the right way to describe her.
My friend had no choice but to pack her shit again and kick her out. Deliver her clothes to her place and get on with his life. Abuse in any relationship is needless, useless, and avoidable. My friend put up with way too much for way too long.
Being in an abusive relationship is not the same as having an argument and reconciliation in a normal relationship. This person was and is a psychopath. She called herself that many times to him and now it was time to call a spade a spade and agree with all the comments she made about herself.
It is hard to believe, but a woman can be as abusive as a man. In her case even more so. Simply because if I didn’t hear it for myself I would never have believed it. So there you go, it is possible to have an abusive woman in your life and justify it to a limit. After that, it’s time to move on.
Zsolt Zsemba 