The Abusive Relationship.

The conversation went sort of like this.

When a supposed loved one calls you stupid and constantly tells you to f-off, and it’s not a joke, what would it be? Well, a one-off thing can be excusable but when it happened on and on it is on another level. One would say this is terribly disgusting and hurtful. 

“Leave him” would be the go-to statement here.

But in this case, the abusive person was a woman. This is how it went down. 

You have nothing…

Was something she often said to him along with the “you are stupid, I hate you asshole, you are worthless, I am going to look for someone else, I am downloading Tinder, I am calling my sugar daddy, and so on. 

Upon hearing all this I wondered how the hell this ever came to be in the first place. This woman has issues, dude, you should run away as fast as you can. 

Well, he tried.

He packed her shit up and threw her out of the house once…However, she had another trick up her sleeve. One thing he noticed about her was that she never talked about her past. Let the past be buried he thought to himself. But he saw the cut wounds on her arms. He was sure she had been cutting herself in the past and that was her weapon of choice to get back into his life. 

I will kill myself, she said.

This statement allowed her back in the house once more even though she had been packed and kicked out completely. Self-harm is a scary thing and so my friend forgave her and she said she would never do it again. 

He was wrong.

Things were alright for a while and then took a turn for the worse. She became more and more aggressive. Bossy was a kind word to describe her. Controlling, manipulative and dangerous to one’s health would be the right way to describe her. 

My friend had no choice but to pack her shit again and kick her out. Deliver her clothes to her place and get on with his life. Abuse in any relationship is needless, useless, and avoidable. My friend put up with way too much for way too long. 

Being in an abusive relationship is not the same as having an argument and reconciliation in a normal relationship. This person was and is a psychopath. She called herself that many times to him and now it was time to call a spade a spade and agree with all the comments she made about herself. 

It is hard to believe, but a woman can be as abusive as a man. In her case even more so. Simply because if I didn’t hear it for myself I would never have believed it. So there you go, it is possible to have an abusive woman in your life and justify it to a limit. After that, it’s time to move on. 


Published by Zsolt Zsemba

Zsolt Zsemba has worn many different hats. He has been an entrepreneur, and businessman for over 30 years. Living abroad has given him many amazing experiences in life and also sparked his imagination for writing. After moving to Canada from Hungary at the age of 10 and working in a family business for a large part of his life. The switch from manufacturing to writing came surprisingly easily for him. His passion for writing began at age 12, mostly writing poetry and short stories. In 1999, the chance came to write scripts. Zsolt took some time off from his family business to write in Jakarta Indonesia for MD Entertainment. Having written dozens of soap operas and made for TV movies, in 2003 Zsolt returned to the family business once more. In 2018, he had the chance to head back to Asia once again. He took on the challenge to be the COO for MD Pictures and get back into the entertainment business. The entertainment business opened up the desire to write once more and the words began to flow onto the pages again. He decided to rewrite a book he began years ago. Organ House was reborn and is a fiction suspense novel while Scars is a young adult drama focused on life’s challenges. After the first two books, his desire to write not only became more challenging but enjoyable as well. After having several books completed he was convinced to publish them for your enjoyment. Zsolt does not tend to stay in one specific genre but tends to lean towards strong female leads and horror. Though he also has a few human interest books, he tends to write about whatever brews in his brain for a while.

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