What I want in a relationship.

Everyone starts out with what they want. WRONG!

Everyone is wrong about this, here is why! This is the wish list… These are the big wants and needs in a relationship and everyone is wrong. So there you are making a list and checking it twice. Checking out who is naughty and nice. 

In our case, it’s spying, creeping, evaluating comments, likes, and statuses on social media or reverse image searches of candidates that will enter your life. However, are we not missing the point? I mean check this out. Open your eyes and look at all the shit you have done and tick off all the things you may not be proud of for crying out loud. Have you ever told a lie? Oh no not me, couldn’t have been, I am always the victim. 

I call bullshit on that.

So instead of making a list of your wants and needs… Isn’t it better to have a different outlook on all this?

Tell me what you don’t want…

Because what you want may not be out there. Your expectations have been raised to such a high degree that you are taller than the tallest building in the world. 

So grab a hold of yourself and make another list. Make a list of things you do not want. Make a list of things that you have not made before. Why? Oh, this is simple, you may be turning away a perfectly good candidate that has the traits you do not want in a person. They may or may not have qualities that are on your wish list, but they may bring something else to the table. 

Open your eyes for crying out loud.

Imagine a person that comes along that brings you experiences that you have never imagined before. They do not fit on your perfect list but they open your eyes to a brand new one. 

We have all been brainwashed by social media regarding what we should look for, what are the triggers, and what to be aware of. Think for yourself and make another list. Make a list of unwanted traits. I don’t want a smoker, a drinker, or a drug user. But do you want a writer, a scuba diver, or an underwater welder? Where have these people been, what have they done and where are they going in life?

Get a person that has experienced life in a different way than you have. These are the little things that we need to look into. Open your eyes and discover the world around you and forget the material things. 

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Published by Zsolt Zsemba

Zsolt Zsemba has worn many different hats. He has been an entrepreneur, and businessman for over 30 years. Living abroad has given him many amazing experiences in life and also sparked his imagination for writing. After moving to Canada from Hungary at the age of 10 and working in a family business for a large part of his life. The switch from manufacturing to writing came surprisingly easily for him. His passion for writing began at age 12, mostly writing poetry and short stories. In 1999, the chance came to write scripts. Zsolt took some time off from his family business to write in Jakarta Indonesia for MD Entertainment. Having written dozens of soap operas and made for TV movies, in 2003 Zsolt returned to the family business once more. In 2018, he had the chance to head back to Asia once again. He took on the challenge to be the COO for MD Pictures and get back into the entertainment business. The entertainment business opened up the desire to write once more and the words began to flow onto the pages again. He decided to rewrite a book he began years ago. Organ House was reborn and is a fiction suspense novel while Scars is a young adult drama focused on life’s challenges. After the first two books, his desire to write not only became more challenging but enjoyable as well. After having several books completed he was convinced to publish them for your enjoyment. Zsolt does not tend to stay in one specific genre but tends to lean towards strong female leads and horror. Though he also has a few human interest books, he tends to write about whatever brews in his brain for a while.

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