Everyone starts out with what they want. WRONG!
Everyone is wrong about this, here is why! This is the wish list… These are the big wants and needs in a relationship and everyone is wrong. So there you are making a list and checking it twice. Checking out who is naughty and nice.
In our case, it’s spying, creeping, evaluating comments, likes, and statuses on social media or reverse image searches of candidates that will enter your life. However, are we not missing the point? I mean check this out. Open your eyes and look at all the shit you have done and tick off all the things you may not be proud of for crying out loud. Have you ever told a lie? Oh no not me, couldn’t have been, I am always the victim.
I call bullshit on that.
So instead of making a list of your wants and needs… Isn’t it better to have a different outlook on all this?
Tell me what you don’t want…
Because what you want may not be out there. Your expectations have been raised to such a high degree that you are taller than the tallest building in the world.
So grab a hold of yourself and make another list. Make a list of things you do not want. Make a list of things that you have not made before. Why? Oh, this is simple, you may be turning away a perfectly good candidate that has the traits you do not want in a person. They may or may not have qualities that are on your wish list, but they may bring something else to the table.
Open your eyes for crying out loud.
Imagine a person that comes along that brings you experiences that you have never imagined before. They do not fit on your perfect list but they open your eyes to a brand new one.
We have all been brainwashed by social media regarding what we should look for, what are the triggers, and what to be aware of. Think for yourself and make another list. Make a list of unwanted traits. I don’t want a smoker, a drinker, or a drug user. But do you want a writer, a scuba diver, or an underwater welder? Where have these people been, what have they done and where are they going in life?
Get a person that has experienced life in a different way than you have. These are the little things that we need to look into. Open your eyes and discover the world around you and forget the material things.
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