Overwrite old memories?

Layer on new ones.

We all have things in life that we would rather forget or things we may regret. If you don’t, good for you. You must have had an amazing life. However, for those of you that have bad, terrible, or utterly horrendous memories, I think I have found a solution. 

You know the places where you broke up with someone, or received bad news. A death in the family, a divorce or being fired, etc. The list could go on and on. 

We can go to therapy and deal with things and spend thousands upon thousands of dollars with a shrink. 

Or pile on a ton of good memories to bury the old terrible ones so deep that not even the best archaeologist can unearth them. 

Think of sedimentary rocks.

The layers pile on over the years. The dust, sand, and dirt mixed with other elements turn into rocks. These layers are tough, yet they are just time mixed with particles. I am only saying this because this is how I am choosing to deal with the crap in my life. It seems to be working. Rather than shun or stay away from an otherwise lovely place because of bad news…

Go back, do not run away from that location. Go back and create good new memories and layer away the bad ones. 

Keep piling on the good stuff to bury the bad.

Now I ain’t no therapist, but to the best of my knowledge, no therapist ever has been able to remove a bad memory from anyone’s head. No amount of money ever fixed someone and patched them up to perfection so try this instead. 

Create new memories.

That bad spot in your life, that bad memory will never go away. I have had people relapse into an old memory and be destroyed by it in the present day. Those were terrible memories that needed a year and a half of psychiatric help and I cannot, will not go into the details. 

On the other hand, less traumatic memories will also never be erased. We can learn and try to move on. Yet the best way to deal with them is to overwrite them. 

Like the old floppy disks we used to have or a modern flash drive. 

Experts seem to be able to gather and retrieve old files from old hard drives. Much like our brains, certain things cannot stay buried forever. So go out and attack that place of a breakup, the place you had the call about being fired, and have a good time. Meet new people at those places so you too can begin to rewrite your life. 

As I said, I am far, far from being an expert on this matter. However, this has been working for me. The more I think about it the more it makes sense. I will never be able to hear a song and forget the moment and the meaning. But I can replace that song with another and think about that new song when the old one hits me. You get the idea… 

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Published by Zsolt Zsemba

Zsolt Zsemba has worn many different hats. He has been an entrepreneur, and businessman for over 30 years. Living abroad has given him many amazing experiences in life and also sparked his imagination for writing. After moving to Canada from Hungary at the age of 10 and working in a family business for a large part of his life. The switch from manufacturing to writing came surprisingly easily for him. His passion for writing began at age 12, mostly writing poetry and short stories. In 1999, the chance came to write scripts. Zsolt took some time off from his family business to write in Jakarta Indonesia for MD Entertainment. Having written dozens of soap operas and made for TV movies, in 2003 Zsolt returned to the family business once more. In 2018, he had the chance to head back to Asia once again. He took on the challenge to be the COO for MD Pictures and get back into the entertainment business. The entertainment business opened up the desire to write once more and the words began to flow onto the pages again. He decided to rewrite a book he began years ago. Organ House was reborn and is a fiction suspense novel while Scars is a young adult drama focused on life’s challenges. After the first two books, his desire to write not only became more challenging but enjoyable as well. After having several books completed he was convinced to publish them for your enjoyment. Zsolt does not tend to stay in one specific genre but tends to lean towards strong female leads and horror. Though he also has a few human interest books, he tends to write about whatever brews in his brain for a while.

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