Being a Single Dad. Part 5

The story of a single dad. 

My story is quite simple. I managed and I put my daughter through university. My son finished high school and Covid hit so his plans were put on hold.  

I have heard horror stories of divorced dads and single moms. Many didn’t end well, many struggled and struggle to this day. Up to a point, I was lucky. I did an admirable job on my own. Yes, I had help but the most amount of help came from my kids. My kids were my greatest helpers. Once they were older we split chores. A quick dusting, vacuuming and a load of laundry here and there gave us the time to go on vacations, weekends away and time out for dinner and movies.  

In the end, the most amazing thing in my story was teamwork. Or in this case, the family making things work rather than dwelling on the fact that we were a broken family.  

How to survive as a single dad. 

Surviving this was not hard. Dealing with many things along the way such as passports. Getting the paperwork together for lawyers and the actual legal aspect I would say was much more stressful than the single dad part.  

The hardest part was trying to explain all the time how I managed full custody of two children. It wasn’t my bad intention that gave me custody of my two children. Rather the lack of action on my ex’s part.  

I don’t mind explaining to people the story. When I do they usually feel bad since they were expecting a different story I am sure. Survival on my part was sacrifice. I did what I needed and I was not selfish. The kids came first and I came second. People need to understand that. 

How to manage time for kids and for friends as a single dad. 

This was all rolled into one. Thank goodness that in the area I lived in, many of my high school friends also settled in. When the kids showed up at school, I bumped into quite a few friends that had kids going to the same grade school as my son.  

This was a funny turn of events. I never would have guessed that when I was in high school I would be meeting some of my friends at the school playground. We chatted about this when our kids played outside or arranged playdates. Reminiscing about high school while our kids played felt strange.  

Later the kids could come and watch me play soccer and hang around the playground or we could go to birthday parties. The point is that friends and kids came together.  

Conclusion: All this was not easy. In the end, we all needed to stay strong. Being a single dad is not a death sentence. It is a series of compromises and making sure that the kid’s needs come before yours.  

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Published by Zsolt Zsemba

Zsolt Zsemba has worn many different hats. He has been an entrepreneur, businessman for over 30 years. Living abroad has given him many amazing experiences in life and also sparked his imagination for writing. After moving to Canada from Hungary at the age of 10 and working in a family business for a large part of his life. The switch from manufacturing to writing came surprisingly easily for him. His passion for writing began at age 12, mostly writing poetry and short stories. In 1999, the chance came to write scripts. Zsolt took some time off from his family business to write in Jakarta Indonesia for MD Entertainment. Having written dozens of soap operas and made for TV movies, in 2003 Zsolt returned to the family business once more. In 2018, he had the chance to head back to Asia once again. He took on the challenge to be the COO for MD Pictures and get back into the entertainment business. The entertainment business opened up the desire to write once more and the words began to flow onto the pages again. He decided to rewrite a book he began years ago. Organ House was reborn and is a fiction suspense novel while Scars is a young adult drama focused on life’s challenges. After the first two books, his desire to write not only became more challenging but enjoyable as well. After having several books completed he was convinced to publish them for your enjoyment. Zsolt does not tend to stay in one specific genre but tends to lean towards strong female leads and horror. Though he also has a few human interest books, he tends to write about whatever brews in his brain for a while.

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