Mental Health and Addiction 15.

Happy Without me. 

It is hard to forgive an alcoholic. On one hand, you know that this mess, this crazy situation came about slowly. On the other hand, all you can say in your head is… Stop, just stop drinking, stop thinking about it and stop consuming the booze.  

This of course applies to every addiction. Obesity, drugs and so forth. Just stop damn it! Easier said than done, most people are seeking pleasure or satisfaction, one that hides or masks other underlying problems. In our case, I knew what the cause was, but my ex decided to take things into her own hands. In her case, it was a bottle. Her realization of the family being happy without her didn’t go over well. But this was the truth and living without her and all the problems were far easier than living with her.  

Loneliness. An alcoholic reflects. 

After endless discussions and years of problems, things were heading even further towards hell. After what she thought of as attempted suicide and taking a bunch of Tylenol it was time for some serious chats.  

It was March. Every March we went to Bali with the kids and this was to be no exception. Unfortunately going on holiday with an alcoholic is not exactly a holiday. At this time, she reflected back on the good times and we started booking the trip to Bali. This was a positive thought but I had other plans. Her reflection on good times only made the family wish and hope for better times.  

Time to Make a Move. We Must Find Rehab. 

While we were planning the trip and finding flights and places to stay in Bali, I had planned her trip to rehab. I searched high and low for places that treat alcohol addiction. After sending emails and making calls from work I narrowed it down to 4 places. There were two places in Ontario, two in Quebec and I had all the information on them clearly outlined. The benefits of each and the contact person as well as the pros and cons of each rehabilitation center.  

This was no Wellness center. Not going to be Easy! 

One thing I knew was that the road ahead for her would not be easy. One month in a proper rehabilitation center was not going to be a walk in the park.  The programs they had were serious, far more elaborate than the place she called her wellness center. She needed serious help I was at my wit’s end while the family suffered as well. Our mental health was in terrible shape. We didn’t sleep well; the kids knew that mom had issues. 

She had no idea. The end is near. 

My plan was a simple one. It was to make her choose a place and check in on her own. Deep inside I knew it would not work so I had a backup plan.  One evening we sat down and I presented all the places to possibly check into. There were a lot of questions as to why and how. She knew all the answers, it was a delay tactic for her. A way to act stupid and in the end, she claimed she was fine. She didn’t need to go and she was fine at home in her current state.  This time I was not going to give in. I had to make her go and so I set my devious plan into action. 

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Published by Zsolt Zsemba

Zsolt Zsemba has worn many different hats. He has been an entrepreneur, and businessman for over 30 years. Living abroad has given him many amazing experiences in life and also sparked his imagination for writing. After moving to Canada from Hungary at the age of 10 and working in a family business for a large part of his life. The switch from manufacturing to writing came surprisingly easily for him. His passion for writing began at age 12, mostly writing poetry and short stories. In 1999, the chance came to write scripts. Zsolt took some time off from his family business to write in Jakarta Indonesia for MD Entertainment. Having written dozens of soap operas and made for TV movies, in 2003 Zsolt returned to the family business once more. In 2018, he had the chance to head back to Asia once again. He took on the challenge to be the COO for MD Pictures and get back into the entertainment business. The entertainment business opened up the desire to write once more and the words began to flow onto the pages again. He decided to rewrite a book he began years ago. Organ House was reborn and is a fiction suspense novel while Scars is a young adult drama focused on life’s challenges. After the first two books, his desire to write not only became more challenging but enjoyable as well. After having several books completed he was convinced to publish them for your enjoyment. Zsolt does not tend to stay in one specific genre but tends to lean towards strong female leads and horror. Though he also has a few human interest books, he tends to write about whatever brews in his brain for a while.

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